Is the relationship with your partner hot, cold or somewhere in between? Unsure?
You might need to check your relationship temperature.
Are you even communicating? Have you been arguing a lot? Having amazing, passionate sex? Do you appreciate each other’s time? Are you doing the same things with your partner and feel in a rut?
There are 3 phases to a relationship temperature check… hot, warm and cold. Review the descriptions below and if you are not where you want your relationship to be, make the necessary changes.
You are in a hot relationship when…
- You laugh together a lot
- You can talk about things without fighting
- You express love, kindness and sweetness
- You care for yourself & your partner
- You build upon your differences
- You serve each other
- You feel appreciated
- You both prioritize your time together
- You both communicate on a consistent basis
- You plan dates
- You can imagine being in a long-term relationship with them
- You can’t wait to introduce them to family and friends
- You love each other unconditionally
- You are intimate more than 3 times a week
- You share little kisses, big smiles and touches “here and there”
You are in a warm relationship when…
- You notice a gradual distance between you two
- Your times together are spent arguing or not talking
- You are not likely to do things for them unless they ask
- Your time does not seem important to them
- Your communication is lacking
- Your dates are limited
- You are just taking the relationship day by day
- Your thoughts about them are good and bad
- You are intimate 1-3 times a week
- You notice physical touch has decreased
You are in a cold relationship when…
- You notice a decrease in the pursuit
- You’re hearing excuses about how busy they are
- You feel like a pest when you get in touch.
- You get a snippy reply when you remind them of things that they’ve said, committed or promised you
- You don’t appear to be included in future plans
- You feel like you need to spend 24/7 together
- You are intimate less than once a week
- You see no physical touch
The reality is that your relationship will stop being “hot” unless you keep the passion and fire burning. Learn your partners love language at www.5lovelanguages.com. Do what makes their heart beat just a bit faster.
Whether your relationship is warm or even cold, there is work to be done by both partners.
Larry Baumgartner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Florida and Founder/Owner of the Trinity Relationship Center. His specialty is helping couples reconnect, rebuild and restore their relationship from affairs/infidelity, communication and relationship issues. Larry offers marriage counseling/couples therapy and individual therapy. For a FREE phone consultation call Larry direct at 727-946-1346. You can schedule your in-person appointment in Trinity, FL or an online counseling appointment from anywhere in Florida at www.TrinityRelationshipCenter.com