You may think dealing with an affair/infidelity in your relationship is difficult.
You are correct.
Couples I meet with after a betrayal feel many ways: ashamed, anxious, embarrassed, angry, sad, shocked, depressed and find it very challenging to move forward. That is where I can help.
I specialize in helping couples work through affairs or infidelity.
Recovering from an affair is such a roller coaster. Betrayal can have such a huge impact on the couple and family’s future. Whether it was emotional or physical, there is a deep hurt that can take a long time to heal.
Those cheated on tell me they experience these 10 reactions:
- Can’t sleep or concentrate
- Constant thinking about what was happening, what the cheater was doing during the entire affair
- Avoid people who you don’t want to have to tell about the affair
- How or will I ever trust my partner again?
- Cry at the drop of a hat
- Constant reminders
- Consumed by a sense of hurt and anger
- Hypervigilant about all the partners past, present and future activities
- A deep sense of loss
- The “Five Stages of Grief”: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance
If asked before an affair almost everyone would say infidelity would end their relationship. After the affair, lots of people think differently. They still want to be with their partner in the end.
Because of this hope to reconnect, rebuild and restore the relationship, couples come into therapy committed and are willing to work on whatever it takes.
In fact, many couples who get help report having an even better relationship after the affair or infidelity.
Throughout my years in counseling, I have worked with people of all ages and life challenges. I have to say there is just something special about seeing a couple reconnect, rebuild and restore their relationship right there in my office. What a sight it is watching a couple sit at opposite ends of the couch at the start of the session, but ever so inch closer during it.
I have been told by many couples that they have not experienced this type of happiness in their relationship in years. I have had the honor of witnessing many memories between couples from holding hands for the time in years to tears of joy from one partner to another after hearing those words of love that have been missing for too long to one of the greatest joys of seeing couples reconnect from infidelity.
If you are ready to experience a change in your relationship schedule your couples counseling appointment today in Trinity or online by clicking here.